Forbes July 2, 2024
Right around age 13, teenagers suddenly become disgusted and embarrassed by just about everything their parents do. Some parents find humor in suddenly becoming “cringe” in their children’s eyes, just as their own parents became uncool in theirs. Others parents feel hurt. But the relentless criticism from teens can become exhausting, and parents end up wondering why teenagers act this way.
This past week I found the best description I’ve yet seen in psychologist Lisa Damour’s article for the New York Times, in which she describes the way teenagers develop “an allergy to their parents” with a “sudden onset around age 13” and lasting for months or years. How parents respond to their teenagers during this time will make a...